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Can emotional neglect be a form of abuse? In some cases it can. Note we are not saying if your partner withholds affection, that is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is about power and control over another person, and emotional neglect can be one way they attempt to control another person. If you want to know more about what emotional abuse is, head over to our website and click on “Is It Abuse?” Allowing room for feelings, giving and receiving attention and affection, keeping agreements – these are all elements of a healthy relationship. The absence of these things are a sign of an emotionally neglected relationship, and that can be, not always, a form of emotional abuse when coupled with other controlling and manipulative behaviors.
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can you help me sir .I am undergoing trauma after my husband emotionally abused me and ignored and i want to take help
I am 3 years out of a 12 year Emotional Neglectful Marrage and my current Boyfriend is still contending with the reflexes I have put in place for the Emotionally Neglectful Partner. After I Married that guy. Let's call him J, J was fine until I had our son. This was 2 years in. They he cut me off. He ignored me and our son. He didn't speak to us, it was like living with a detached shadow. Once, our son bumped into him when he was sitting onto the phone and he grabbed him by the head and shoved him away. I lost it. I got on the couch and screamed in this face. He just put a blanket over himself and went to sleep. He lived on that couch. When I moved he showed up. He wouldn't say anything until our son started talking. It became evident I couldn't trust him to watch our son. He didn't change him or feed him. After our son hit 4 I left to see my dad. He didn't know where I was. I ment to leave. I had the nerve to move home and I came back to get my stuff. He spoke to me then. Like a fool I stayed. I got pregnant with twins that year. He showed me off and eventually our girls. But he moved his mother in and he went back to ignoring all of us. He bought a house in thier name. By then my credit was ruined and I had no where else to go. I paid the bills, I fed the children. I worked at the y they went to, I maintained everything and I came home to these two boat anchors every night. My pleas to do things went unanswered. I was a single mom of my husband, his mother and my children. I began to resent them. Then they set me up to be 302ed by reading my journal and personal letters. The fabricated a suicide note so his mother can apply for the benefits I was getting through the VA for being his caregiver. After that all trust was gone. The first chance I got to leave I tried to take. We ended up with a stalker instead. A family friend insisted he paid for me and the kids already. After 3 years of hearing nothing was done. The guy walks free. Now, I fled to my Dad's. I have a boyfriend, when he doesn't look me in the eyes when we talk I shut up and walk away. When I am talked over I shut up and walk away. I don't sit on the couch because I think it's a bed. I am overly thankful for things like kisses, acknowledgement. When he gets me what I ask for I thank him profusely. He says that he is just doing what he normally does. No big deal. But it is for me. When he goes out of his way to do so.ething for me, I still cry. But then I wonder what does he need? What does he want? Why? Then I remember "Oh yeah, it's L! Not J. He doesn't want anything from me besides love." That recently started to stop the depression spirals.
Currrently struggling with this. Things had been on the mend for the last 4 years, slowly but at least he was making an effort instead of no effort. Last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer (miscarriage shortly after) and since we moved to a home outside of the city, no one but my father and mother came by to see me all year. It felt like COVID again. Not only trapped in the a birdcage of my home but also my heart. My hubby just stopped communicating. And now my feelings have built up so everytime i try to address it I eventually get angry when he eventually invalidate my feelings. I'm the one going through things right now…why do I have to constantly manage and beg for attention from the people around me?
Chipping away on a rock. Whittles away to sand.
💯- children with mental health challenges don’t fit the narcissistic parent’s picture perfect family photo- so the challenged one is disbelieved, invalidated diagnosis with all attempts to control what they say or do in public
Dealing with this now.
– I’m seeing that when married I saw her as a teammate and craved Affection INSTEAD of continuing the male/female dynamic of Desire…….. THAT and working away from home made her “dry up” and see me as an asset that provides a service.
Respect went along with civility – then the years of neglect started (sexless marriage).
Getting myself tuned back into masculine and returning to having an objective gets my eyes off of looking to my wife for validation. ITS ON YOU TO BE YOU (Not them).
They will then change their mind seeing that THEY are NOT your focus and you are not NEEDY.
From this, you begin to see it and if you reengage with this person, SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING !!!! set boundaries and keep them.
After over 20 years of marriage, my husband began an adulterous relationship. The emotional neglect and abandonment has been devastating. He was more faithful to his affair partner than to God or our marriage. He divorced me me after 6 years of telling me he was going to try and work on our marriage but never put forth any real effort. He’s still with her, comes into town to see her and his actions have left me and our family broken. “Withering of the spirit”, that’s exactly how it feels.
I absolutely think it's a thing because I've been living this's for 18 years. All 5 points are tight on. It has absolutely devastated my life. I'm trying to get free.
After 8 years, I felt like I was dying. I felt worthless and invisible. A ghost.
Yes its a thing