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In this video Dr. David Hawkins, Director of The Marriage Recovery Center, debunks the notion that sending your man off for individual therapy for his narcissistic traits is effective. He suggests that it is not and that you, the partner of someone with narcissistic traits can be very effective in helping him to heal and walks you through The strategies to help him do just that.
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The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts about narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.
Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships. He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse.
Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship. In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, topics include covert, reactive, spiritual, secondary, relationship trauma and more.
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Waw, just what I did 🙌🏼🔥 now the change is there ♥️
how do i get in contact with you re questions on the therapy you offer?
It can't be done don't even try. It is futile to try to change a narcissist. Just get away from them no matter what and never do anything that will put you back in contact. If that means avoid family and friends who are still flying monkeys avoid all contact and residual distant contacts who will triangulate you back to the narcissist.
I would love to talk to you
He says he’s changing but now expects more interaction from me. After 35 years of hell I have too much resentment.
Are you as a therapist ever worried about narcissists faking that they’re learning from you OR that they’ll learn how to fake being empathetic etc. from things you suggest that he do to improve himself? Apparently narcissists do this very often and very efficiently but don’t actually change at all. It’s been said by some therapists that sometimes therapy even makes their patients worse because they just learn how to better fake being the way they are supposed to be.
Very few men or women with a high degree of these traits are willing to make the commitment to the process of change. They don’t see the need to change. The motivation is not there to spend the time or money. Everyone else needs to change.
My fear is he is so obstinate and has the idea that I’m the “broken person” and he is the perfect savior that tolerates his broken wife….. and he will say fine!
I’ve been isolated for 24 years… he had me get rid of all my friendships outside our marriage because they were “unhealthy” and replace my friendships with his friends wives. I was raised by a narcissist so I have no family to turn too unless I want to jump into that narcissistic cesspool.
I guess it has to get to a point that I have to choose a slow emotional and mental death or choose mental safety alone.
How does it work if I call ?
A real narc sees nothing wrong in their decisions so they see no reason to change they put all the blame on everyone else. And threatening to leave a narc can be dangerous or he doesn’t care because this gives him a chance to find someone new that doesn’t know who he is and what he is capable of. Once you call them out and they realize you know what they are and that its all been their issue and not yours they will turn a cold shoulder to you and they are ready to discard you especially if they have someone to replace you with. People are replaceable with narcs. Thats why they cheat and usually have so many failed marriages. They dont feel deeply for their partner. They can very easily replace her and feel the same for the next one. Unless you have a partner this is also very controlling and they can still intimidate you. That is when it can be dangerous to threaten to leave. That is when you need support to leave and let them know after the fact. I wish or hope there is help, the issue is that even at their lowest its everyone else’s fault and they fail to see anyone else’s perspective. Even if they see that they have wronged someone its still, yes but i was traumatized and ive been hurt too. It still goes back to them and how they are a victim so they cant help it. They also dont always tell the truth in therapy and sometimes that “change” or “break through” is temporary and may be another manipulative tactic. And its hard to tell because they are master deceivers. For me it is hard to believe that someone isnt capable of love or falling inlove or that they cant be helped. But i do also understand that their brains are wired different. Connections were not made during the time their brain was developing. And I’m not sure that talk therapy can fix that in a middle aged adult.
Im sorry
But after all, I've learned about narcissm , this past 7months, and what I've ignorantly endured for 17years , i have nothing left in me to carry on
Not even The Holy Spirit could convict him , all th4se years
I am numb and broken, with no hope of still fighting for his heart
Thank you for giving me hope
Wow! Suprised at the age of this.. such a refreshing take! Thank you. As relevant today as ever! 👏👏
Unconditional love and truth telling and boundary setting, trusting the divine, trusting yourself and then putting trust in the so-called narcissist and complete and utter forgiveness as per Christ – no therapist is necessary. That is if it truly is love and if you see the full potential of them even when they give up on themselves….. it is NOT an overnight process and enabling is not helpful. 🙏🏻
Thank goodness people like you are giving hope here because most often we are told nothing can be done.
Im single but still I recognize, try to seek resources to, im not gonna lie, be successful, and heal before looking for a relationship
Narcissists don’t have “partners.” They’re a one man band
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2023/Sep/20