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I think the fundamental problem many people have with his concepts is to do
with the idea that somehow any smile, laugh, hug, glistening eye of a
friend you value a lot is ultamately almost worthless… it doesn’t
matter. That is very hard to grasp for me and I don’t agree with it. I
think there is something divine in emotions, whatever futile and unstable
they may be.
Secondly I think a lot of people are, by that same token, taken aback by
the idea that mass murderers, cheaters and opportunists are ultimately just
the same as people who promote peace and bravery.
I just cannot get around those two concepts myself.
However, to me, many of his teachings are very helpful – and extremely
valuable.
smaller dogs get the most angry -haha
I can honestly say that it barely (I say barely because I can remember ONE
time when I was 10) ever happens that my anger takes me over and I’m no
longer aware/consciouss. That never happens.
But I see it happen in my mother all the time, well I don’t know if she is
aware, but if she is, she certainly doesn’t mind being angry then. Because
she gets angry ALL the time. I don’t judge it, but I just can’t stand being
around her. I could say she is an annoying person, but that would be ego
blahblah, but what if she can never be nice for a whole day, what if,
through my entire life, if I spent time with her (one or multiple hours)
she has never been nice friendly and calm for the entire time I was around
her.
The only chance to spend a nice moment with her without any anger, is if I
say I feel like an outcast and how different I feel from everyone else.
Then it feels like she drains power from that and smiles and says you’re
just like me. As if it’s a happy feeling to feeling alone.
So if we talk about ANYTHING else, it will take 15 minutes MAX for her to
get angry.
Still learning from you, every day. I love it! Thank you so much:-)
Tolle makes some good points, but his sniggering seems patronizing. Few
people talk about beating ourselves up, which seems to be something a lot
of people do.
Fascinating. I thought it was interesting that anger comes from the
powerlessness that we feel. I am often my most stressed, anxious, and
frustrated when I am out of control…working on that. Also, who knew
that’s what judging someone meant? Yikes, I guess I judge myself,
too…more often than I should.
I allow myself to be overcome by anger when I see others subjected to
purposeful suffering and violence and seek to understand this phenomena.
Anger, judgment, and the pain-body.
You are like a father to me. Thank you.
Eckhart Tolle: How to manage self expectations (hint – there is no self;)
http://buff.ly/1oiAwHK #mindfulness #PowerOfNow
Whenever I let my anger out it loses it’s power pretty quicky, then I feel
dumb and embarrassed and then regret.
Reading my mind
Thank you for your wisdom. It is changing the world!
Ah just what I needed. A magnificent manifestation of mine if I may say so
myself. ;)
Just stumbled across this. It must be true that nothing happens by
accident because I really needed to hear this today.
Eckhart Tolle: How do I manage self-expectations?
excellent video
How do I manage self-expectations? http://buff.ly/1qAMYGZ
Thank You ((( ❤ )))
This is a comment I’m personally leaving on this video.
I loved his dog analogies 🙂 great talk, as always.
It helps me so much true my daily life promblems Thank God for such a
wonderfull soul.
7:22 Amazing observation sir! So very true.
Love it!
I see Eckhart do this all the time; pauses for some time, rapid
eye-blinking, then resumes the lecture. This is pure consciousness without
the obligation of needing to always having to say something. It’s okay to
stop and gather the thoughts and words you wish to convey, without feeling
rushed through your process.
Thank you, Eckhart!
Thanks, that helped me, specially today i was having tough time
Thank you for your wise words <3 Feel similar since I am here... with Tao
or a Flow... with all...
I manage my anger better than used to, though still haven’t mastered it,
and I know to well the explosive power it has and the control it takes from
you. I now have an adolescent in my care with serious anger issues. I am
trying to think of a way to pass this message on to them in a way they can
understand…
what is he saying at 10:50…you become???? looking for a cause? thanks in
advance
I would like to recommend a book to everyone who likes Eckhart’s teachings.
It is called ‘”The Present- Universal truth” . Best book I have ever read,
definitely. It helped me expirence life in a new, amazing way. I’m sure it
can do the same for everyone. Enjoy :)
I love Eckhart’s teachings!!!
do you even lift bro
much love thank you!
ohh god i’m laughing so hard at his little dog impressions!! :D
exceptional :)
Good stuff. Something I find relevant here is Gurdjieff’s idea of man being
a mechanical machine, who has no real free will but thinks he does. That’s
exactly how I feel in the instant the heat of anger lights up, like
something overtakes me and literally lose it or more accurate lose
myself…vernon Howard said something similar, the “the disappearing man”
to describe the same idea of a person being taken over….interesting stuff
Well said. I really needed to hear this right now. I know this but
sometimes as life happens it is easy to forget. It is nice to be reminded.
he cracks me up every time
the “state of being in anger” is a regressive /pent up feel aroused, which
are stored in our sub conscious mind, which though seem to give us “feel of
power”, are in fact a defensive mechanism to hide our weakness/ state of
powerlessness. Our awareness at the ‘moment of anger’ would give us sense
of control, wherein we need to stand-out from our selves and to ‘observe’
as to why we intend to get anger frequently, whether the “proportion of
feeling anger” is more than genuine expression of ones feeling than that
particular situation warrants. Thus ‘Anger Management’ is essentially
self-regulatory process wherein we need to recognize the fact that we are
not that feel of anger and that anger needs to be taken control of. But we
need not be in any way compulsive (to our selves) in this exercise of anger
management, rather it should be phased out in a gradual manner, while
respecting our individuality. However the expression of anger need not to
be totally aborted from our mental state, which would do more harm than our
bursting in anger itself.
Recommended!
I dunno. I think our ego is sort of us .. we are responsible for it. If you
say that its not them, I think its partially an enabling point of view.
However I can see why it would be said. Once it takes over it really isn’t
them, but the choice is always still there. So, really, it is a choice,
therefore I think we are responsible, it is ourselves.
You are unique 🙂 Love your simplicity
I love the silent part:) the space between the words…;)