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Mad.In.Love Podcast Season 2, Episode 2
How do I know if I am experiencing emotional abuse? Is there hope for my relationship if my partner is a narcissist? These are just a couple of the questions we get asked every day from people who call in to the Marriage Recovery Center, and it is at the core of much of the work that we do with couples and individuals. We have been helping individuals heal and recover from emotional abuse for over a decade, and if they so choose, to try to restore their relationship. We also have one of the few, if not only treatment programs for people with narcissistic traits.
In this episode of Dr. Hawkins Reacts, we decided to pose these questions to ChatGPT and see what artificial intelligence has to say on the topic of narcissism and emotional abuse within the context of relationships. Join us for a fun and informative hour as Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan share their reactions to ChatGPT’s answer to the question, “What are the signs that I am experiencing emotional abuse?” and “Is there hope for my relationship if my partner is a narcissist?” Let’s see what ChatGPT had to say, and whether the answers pass muster with two therapists who have been working in this field for over a decade.
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The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts about narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.
Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships. He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse.
Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship. In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, topics include covert, reactive, spiritual, secondary, relationship trauma and more.
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They insist & persistent to get ATTENTION/ADMIRATION for his physical fine LOOKS & HIS FAST Flashy CARS . See ME! Adore admire me!!! He says. She says " your not so great. ( she's going to suffer his rude words that cut deep. 😢😢😢😢😮
Emotional turmoil 😢 self-doubt
Ridiculing & teasing games so as to be COMPETITIVE Behavior. He enjoys being in COMPETITION with everyone especially his LOVE OF HIS LIFE. Significant partner he says " I LOVE U".❤ let's poke fun at each others flaws especially when she is feeling low. Having a bad day physically. She is experiencing a backache, & her teeth hurt 😢😢😢😢. Last thing she deserves poking fun Ridiculing her problems.😢😢😢 She needs a COMFORTING SUPPORTIVE Positive gentle empathic understanding WORDS to COMFORT HER. Offer to take to doctors to help her feel WELL CARED FOR.
With caring LOVING KINDNESS LOVE Actions. Cherish her your SIGNIFICANT PARTNER, FRIEND. 😊😊😊😊😊
SOFT words & gentle hugs.
I might change the term "unscapegoating" to "DEscapegoating"… Kind of like deglazing or deescalating.
51 I am female married to narcissist 23 years together didn’t realize till 2020 spiritual awakening then I researched narcissist walking on eggshells twisting everything back at me belittling me. No spiritual connection for him thinks I am crazy for seeing what is happening cause he sees nothing cause ego thinks he knows everything but clueless to what is happening. All about him says I have changed I have changed. I have learned to control my emotions so he doesn’t feed off me. I thought at first I was here to help him but can’t help someone who sees nothing wrong with self. It’s all mental no physical. No empathy. Half the time he doesn’t even listen to me but if I do it back it’s wrong I am always wrong in his eyes. I know I am right. Thanks I am thankful for all the videos I am Empath feel deeper than most. I am to sensitive he says like it’s a bad thing I know it’s a good thing to know my true self. Just like he loves looking at porn I said it is sin with the eyes cheating with your eyes no it’s not in his blind eyes. ❤to all
I experienced every sign of being emotionally abused!
George Paul Thomas!!!?…😕…what age are you living in!!??🤔
I’d find myself mutualizing bc I was too afraid to say “YOU” and stating what hurt me. “We need to work on reciprocity.” 🤦🏽♀️
This video is so funny because Dr. Hawkins abused Chat GPT after he saw that he was a threat to his job
I've experienced all of these feelings in my marriage, but the isolation is more self-imposed. When your partner seems like they could be "at the end of their rope" at any time, you spend energy to avoid that, and tend to not spend the time and effort on other relationships. Especially if you are more introverted to begin with, like me.
Can this even start off with molesting that happened to me many several times as a young gal.
I LOVE ALL OF YOU.THANK U ALL.GOD BLESS U AS WELL PLEASE KEEP UP UR HELP.THANK YOU
Were I am and did even realize thats what was going on even at my age.the anxiety and stress keeps me depressed and I'm not moving how do I become to flow again I need help moving forward.
Sooo how do I get an apt w you guys and my husband because – help
I always justifying my mother's behavior because I think she not have bad intentions.
When I feel bad and crying then she gaslighting me and others about the reasons… she never accepting that is her fault and I think did she really can't understand and she think something else? Or she pretending that she can't understand because she want always seems right even when she wrong.
Well better say…did she being paranoid at the moment or she manipulating!
I mean if she really mean whatever she saying or she just saying but don't mean it.
Hard to find out…
She often blackmailing me abusing me and much more…she makes me at the moment do whatever she want or just sit down and shut up.
Worth to mention I'm 29 years old.
I will delete this comment later because she is already aware that I often complaining about her, I don't want she understand that I complained about her one more time.
My mom hate my father and maybe she unconsciously taking revenge from him through me by abusing me so many times she told me that I need to change my genes….even sometimes she saying my facial expression is not good…
Often she abusing me when I crying or I complaining about something.
I can't even cook whenever I want and whatever I want, already long time I didn't cook lentils because she saying me it takes long time I should not waste time but when she cooking something simple it takes around two hours even when she boiling potatoes because everything she washing for so many times and mostly whatever she doing takes long time, often she makes others to wait but she don't like when me or someone makes her to wait, often she stopping me to do something but she always have justification, doesn't matter how many things I doing during day often seems not enough for her.
Recently she cooked lentils after of few month's.
Years ago i used this situation to detect some people which like to take advantage of others, some people had told me to not show my vulnerabilities so it's difficult to not complain, in life everything have good and bad sides, the good side of the vulnerabilities is that giving me the chance to detect so many things like why and how some people using different type of manipulative methods in a purpose to take advantage of someone's vulnerable situation for their own benefit, sometimes they can try to manipulate others and confuse them about the exact person because the person didn't did whatever they was want…
Some people can intentionally sent malware to the device's and pretend it happen accidentally.
Some people want to be "one step" forward in a purpose to know if they can continue their previous manipulative scheme or they need to make a new…
Year's ago happened few incidents me and some other's let them to think that they are "one step" forward by this way we detected so many things including someone who is sociopath.
According to my opinion in some cases need to make the manipulation immediately fail, but sometimes need to wait little bit to makes them think thay they are forward in a purpose that they wont change the scheme.
I think its fair to detect because it is so much unfair when some people taking advantage of vulnerable people.
Some people intentionally can disturb and distract someone and not let to complete whatever doing at the moment, behind it can have different intentions for example may they already "created" manipulative scheme and they need to make their lies seems true thats why when they know the exact person or person's gonna make the manipulation to fail then they can try to prevent it.
Of course sometimes can happen accidentally but if keep happening often then means….
My mom often during day disturbing me distracting me because she think I should every moment be ready to help her in something but about others I can say they not doing it for the same reason.
My mom know psychology so well and I wonder why she let some others to take advantage of her and me? I prefer to think she was want to proof me that they are manipulative…
Of course I know so many good people that they never will take advantage of others vulnerabilities.
I doing so many things during day I think I have the right to take rest or to take care of my basic needs whenever I need and not whenever she saying me.
When her mood is good then she behaving so nice and kind with me she saying me sweet words…
she did and doing so many good things for me.
My father years ago had told me that she was after him and decided to make a deal with him to have a child but my mother had told me that he was after her and often he was "disturbing" her and then tried to left a good opinion…I don't think so she raped him😅 he cheated his wife with my mother.
In 2017 we had issues when his wife was aware that her husband start to talk with us again since end of 2015
My mother's ex husband cheated her with other women's that happened before she meet with my father.
Some people intentionally tried to provoke me in a purpose to use my reaction against me, they was aware of the situation and they did it because they was need to make the situation more worst in a purpose to get benefit of it.
When someone don't know about what's going on then ok I won't feel that much bad but if the person is well aware and keep trying to do everything in a purpose to make the situation more difficult then it's more worst.
I always thought I have to be there for my kids, but for over 20years I really feel broken from head to toe, I want to out , but , how to start ?
This was truly an invaluable discussion everyone
Thank you ❤
I just love your passion Dr Hawkins
I love that you understand more than most counsellors, therapists , clergy etc
It's asif you live our lives
I just feel so validated after this video
Even my pastor called me over sensitive
No one can truly ever understand toxicity, until they've lived it😢
You all helped me so much many years ago on a personal level. I love your books and this channel. I’m still benefiting from them. Thank you for all you do to help people!
Please do more on how victims of narc abuse can evaluate counsellors BEFORE suffering the additional trauma of going to the wrong ‘helper’ with the perp. Many years ago I persuaded my sis to go for counselling twice only for her to experience exactly the mutualization and additional trauma you described. At the time I had virtually NO knowledge of narc abuse but, with videos like these, I now recognize that was likely her experience. What questions can we, as traumatized survivors, ask of counsellors in an introductory meeting to see if they will help, or harm, us? I met with counsellors first by myself before including my husband (having read The Dance of Anger – H D Lerner and accepting that I can only change myself).